Discover a simple way to head off arguments, resolve conflicts and to restore harmony . . .
even in the most problem-filled relationships and with the most difficult people.
This is for you, even if . . .
You have a hard time speaking up for yourself . . .
You tend to be too blunt and hurt other’s feelings . . .
You’re inclined to get sad, emotional or angry
when you’re not being heard.
This is especially for you if . . .
You’re terrified at creating waves
and making things worse than they already are . . .
You’re on the verge of divorce . . .
You’re about to be served with a lawsuit . . .
Or you’re simply dealing with someone who doesn’t
listen or take you seriously . . .
Speaking Up For Yourself:
Dammed if you do,
Dammed if you Don’t
Most people are terrified to ask for what they most need.
Perhaps you hesitate asking your spouse, children or even an employee to take certain responsibilities so you don’t feel overwhelmed doing so much yourself.
Or maybe you are giving yourself a half dozen excuses why you shouldn’t ask for a promotion . . . when you’ve been passed by multiple times before by others less qualified.
Or it could be reluctance to tell a friend, a teenaged child or your significant other that a certain behavior is wearing on your nerves.
It can be something as everyday as your spouse turning on the television and zoning out when they get home from work. You smile and pretend everything is wonderful, but deep inside, you desperately desire to spend more time with this loved one, sharing your thoughts, feelings, goals and desires . . .
You wish you could Speak Your Truth but feel you won’t be heard . . .
or even worse . . . you will be shut down.
Below, listen to Sherry Farrell, a real estate broker and mom,
Below, listen to Dr. Deborah Kearney, a prominent educator and
If you’re a man, you also are not alone in your challenges in speaking up to get your needs fulfilled:
Listen to what Wayne, a gentleman I struck up a conversation
Shockingly, even the most powerful people in the world can feel inhibited and squashed when trying to Speak Their Truth.
Listen to what former
The difficulties in life and relationships not being able to express your needs and Speak Your Truth are pervasive.
When the #MeToo Movement suddenly exploded forth just a short time ago, many women finally found the courage to step forward and Speak Their Truth.
Hear these famous actresses coming forward and describing their
Indeed, a Speaking Your Truth Revolution has begun sweeping the globe.
The #MeToo, #BlackLivesMatter and #NeverAgain movements are in the news nearly every week. This is after generations of silence and repression about sexual harassment, political racism and gun violence in our children’s schools.
The harmful effects of an inability to Speak Your Truth often isn’t as dramatic as outright abuse.
Like most people – women, men and children alike – you may feel you are not getting what you most need in your relationships.
Speaking Your Truth with your spouse, with your family, in your career, and even as a change-maker in the world, doesn’t have to involve offending others or putting on superficial airs of being “fierce.”
Rather, discovering how to Speak Your Truth using 5 simple yet powerful “phases” enables you to effortlessly get what you need in all areas of your life.
And it does so in a manner that automatically causes the other person to want to give you what you most desire.
Chief Judge Paul Michel,
Starting with the first lesson in this 10-module online Masterclass, you will begin using The 5 Phases to eliminate conflict, deepen and strengthen all your relationships, soften even the hardest people, and to uncover your hidden ability to impact and influence others.
Below, you can begin following the journey of 7 students who took The 5 Phases workshop and see how this Masterclass began transforming their lives, their work and their most precious relationships —
ERIN BURKETT, PhD.
You will immediately begin using Module 1 of the workshop to:
Dissolve stress with your significant other
Soften unreasonableness with family members (including parents and children!)
Set boundaries that will be respected
Make your home life joyful again
On a professional level, starting with Module 1, you will begin having at your fingertips the skills to:
Resolve conflicts with coworkers and business partners
Remove resistance with customers and in key negotiations
Build powerful teams to accomplish your goals
By the end of the workshop, you will be well on your way to being a master at the fine art of:
Creating harmonious relationships
Handling difficult people
Being someone who quietly leads by example
Accomplishing major goals without conflict
Deepening personal relationships and strengthening professional ones
Building and motivating teams and inspiring all those around you
Speaking Your Truth in a manner that gets you what you most need while at the same time building a personal or business relationship up rather than tearing it down, is the most essential and valuable skill you will ever acquire in your entire life. Bar none.
A New Way of Life
Without the ability to ask for what you most need and to set healthy boundaries, it will be impossible for you to have a truly happy relationship or fulfilling family life and marriage.
And professionally, without this ability, you will never live up to your true potential or earn what you are capable of.
No one is born with this ability. Yet this most critical of all life skills is not taught in school, by our parents, or even when you get a job.
In fact, you cannot get this training anywhere else.
While there are many techniques out there, what you are about to learn is a new way of relating to others, and a new way in which they will relate to you.
In fact, it’s a new way of life,
5 Secrets of The Greatest Leaders
The skills you will learn in the workshop and immediately begin putting into practice are the same ones developed by history’s greatest leaders —
Nelson Mandela, Martin Luther King, Mother Theresa, Mahatma Gandhi, the Dalai Lama, Oprah Winfrey. . .
These are all people who have changed cultures and entire societies.
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The lives of these luminaries, through the power of their mere presence, have compelled others to want to join and help them in whatever way they can.
Mandela was able to transform his life-giving ideals into effective words and actions.
After a lifetime of experiencing violent repression and 27 years spent as a political prisoner of the government, he overcame the repressive Apartheid regime to unite his country.
Learning to Transform Reactivity
in Yourself and Others
If you think Cap Dean, Nelson Mandela, Oprah Winfrey, Chief Judge Paul Michel and all the other luminaries named above were born with these skills, you would be buying into an unfortunate myth.
Just as you are now taking the first steps to learn The 5 Phases, these greats chose to make peacemaking a lifelong study.
This starts with the conscious decision to resist the all-too-common natural human impulse toward reactivity.
Barbara Marx Hubbard shares in my interview with her
The 5 Phases of Speaking Your Truth was formulated over decades of seeing how being in denial of the need for Speaking Your Truth – or speaking it in the confrontational My-Way-Or-The-Highway style so typically used nowadays – is at the basis of all our greatest problems.
This isn’t just on a governmental and political level.
It applies most importantly to every one of our personal relationships.
Hear Bob describe how The 5 Phases techniques
Beginning in the 1990s, I began studying the extremely subtle yet extraordinarily powerful skills of our greatest leaders.
But before those lessons became formulated into The 5 Phases, I made numerous mistakes that cost me many important relationships.
How the death of my sister
Six years of my childhood were spent with a dear sister fighting cancer. She died when she was 18 and when I was 16.
Prior to her loss, I had a lot of inhibitions expressing myself. But after my sister’s death, I had a life-altering revelation:
I realized I would get more and more upset when I held things in . . . meaning, when I wasn’t being honest and speaking my truth.
I thus adopted an unusual philosophy —
I vowed to live the rest of my life without harboring a single resentment. I decided that —
I would rather have you be mad at me, than me be mad at you.
Listen to Sherry describe how
If like 90% of the population you tend to avoid Speaking Your Truth out of fear that someone will get upset with you, adopting this new attitude can be life-changing for you too.
But just as not Speaking Your Truth creates many problems, so too Speaking Your Truth too directly creates other types of undesirable consequences.
Hell-On-Wheels in Relationships
Though almost everyone throughout my life would describe me as very kind-hearted, my philosophy of “I’d rather you be mad at me than me be mad at you” resulted in me tending toward over-directness.
The end result was, I could be hell-on-wheels in relationships.
While I don’t believe anyone would say I have a mean bone in my body, it’s not easy being around someone who can be as straightforward as I tended to be.
Burning Bridges from
As a young doctor building multiple holistic practices and managing a wide range of employees and partners, I hadn’t yet discovered the graceful effectiveness of The 5 Phases of Speaking Your Truth.
I thus burned many bridges behind me both personally and professionally.
But over the next decades, without being conscious of it at first, I began to observe what I did that caused some relationships to fall apart, and others to thrive . . .
what at times made me a difficult personal or business partner, and at others, an irresistible companion and trailblazer.
I learned the most studying biographies about great luminaries.
Every night for 2 years straight, I fell asleep reading over and over Nelson Mandela’s 656-page autobiography, Long Walk to Freedom.
The words of this book, and other books and movies such as Richard Attenborough’s classic movie, Gandhi, reverberated in my heart and rose up through my soul.
Watch this short lesson from Module 3 of
From watching such movies over and over and reading such books as Mandela’s – not so much as an intellectual process, but more as a gentle rewiring of my entire inner framework – I slowly began forming new behavioral patterns.
These gave me greater and greater adeptness at the quiet and largely non-verbal techniques the great luminaries I was studying used to lift humanity and change the world.
The ability I gradually developed to resolve and avoid conflict and to create harmonious and lasting relationships with these resistance-free techniques has served me well for many years now.
After selling my last clinic in the 1990s, what I have come to call The 5 Phases of Speaking Your Truth enabled me to build the relationships necessary to make my first book, The 9 Insights of the Wealthy Soul, into a bestselling book series four years in a row (2004 through 2007).
While forging that path and building an audience of 129,000 online subscribers, these same skills enabled me to transform fourteen years as the full-time caregiver to my mother into a beautiful life experience.
My mother had Alzheimer’s and the experience immeasurably added to the evolution of The 5 Phases and their effectiveness in positively shifting just about any kind of imaginable relationship.
After my mothers passing, I used The 5 Phases to build technology teams, acquire investors, receive foundational patents in the social media arena, and to operate in some of the highest circles both in Silicon Valley and in Washington, D.C.
I now also use The 5 Phases daily to strengthen and deepen my bond with Susanna, a world-renowned sculptress and my significant other.
The 5 Phases empower you to eliminate conflict, create harmony and deepen and strengthen all your relationships.
What these skills have done for me, Susanna, my students, and for the world’s greatest luminaries, so too will they do for you.
even issues you may have with the most difficult-to-handle people.
BUT . . .
Before you begin to develop these life-sustaining abilities, ask yourself:
Which of These Two Fatal Lies
do you tell yourself?