A New Way of Life

Without the ability to ask for what you most need and to set healthy boundaries, it will be impossible for you to have a truly happy relationship or fulfilling family life and marriage.

And professionally, without this ability to Speak Your Truth, you will never live up to your true potential or achieve what you are capable of achieving and earning.

No one is born with this ability. Yet this most critical of all life skills is not taught in school, by our parents, or even when you get a job.

In fact, you cannot get this training anywhere else .

While there are many techniques out there, what you are about to learn is a new way of relating to others . . .

and a new way in which they will relate to you.

In fact, it's a new way of life.

5 Secrets of The Greatest Leaders

The skills you will learn in the workshop and immediately begin putting into practice are the same ones developed by history's greatest leaders -

Nelson Mandela, Martin Luther King, Mother Theresa, Mahatma Gandhi, the Dalai Lama, Oprah Winfrey. . .

These are all people who have changed cultures and entire societies

The lives of these luminaries, through the power of their mere presence, have compelled others to want to join and help them in whatever way they can.

Mandela was able to transform his life-giving ideals into effective words and actions.

After a lifetime of experiencing violent repression and 27 years spent as a political prisoner of the government, he overcame the repressive Apartheid regime to unite his country.

Learning to Transform Reactivity
in Yourself and Others

If you think Cap Dean, Nelson Mandela, Oprah Winfrey, Chief Judge Paul Michel and all the other luminaries named above were born with these skills, you would be buying into an unfortunate myth.

Just as you are now taking the first steps to learn The 5 Phases, these greats chose to make peacemaking a lifelong study.

This starts with the conscious decision to resist the all-too-common natural human impulse toward reactivity.

Barbara Marx Hubbard shares in my interview with her
how The 5 Phases of Speaking Your Truth breaks through
that primitive reactivity in all of us —

"Everybody should {learn The 5 Phases},
because when I think about the amount of trouble,
pain, war is caused by people not doing this..."

The 5 Phases of Speaking Your Truth was formulated over decades of seeing how being in denial of the need for Speaking Your Truth or speaking it in the confrontational My-Way-Or-The-Highway style so typically used nowadays is at the basis of all our greatest problems.

This isn't just on a governmental and political level.

It applies most importantly to every one of our personal relationships.

Beginning in the 1990s, I began studying the extremely subtle yet extraordinarily powerful skills of our greatest leaders.

But before those lessons became formulated into The 5 Phases, I made numerous mistakes that cost me many important relationships.

How the death of my sister
changed everything

Six years of my childhood were spent with a dear sister fighting cancer. She died when she was 18 and when I was 16.

Prior to her loss, I had a lot of inhibitions expressing myself. But after my sister's death, I had a life-altering revelation:

I realized I would get more and more upset when I held things in . . .

meaning, when I wasn't being honest and speaking my truth.

I thus adopted an unusual philosophy —

I vowed to live the rest of my life without harboring a single resentment. I decided that —

I would rather have you be mad at me, than me be mad at you.

If like 90% of the population you tend to avoid Speaking Your Truth out of fear that someone will get upset with you,

adopting this new attitude can be life-changing for you too.

But just as not Speaking Your Truth creates many problems, so too Speaking Your Truth too directly creates other types of undesirable consequences.

Hell-On-Wheels in Relationships

Though almost everyone throughout my life would describe me as very kind-hearted, my philosophy of "I'd rather you be mad at me than me be mad at you" resulted in me tending toward over-directness.

The end result was, I could be hell-on-wheels in relationships.

While I don't believe anyone would say I have a mean bone in my body, it's not easy being around someone who can be as straightforward as I tended to be.

Burning Bridges from
Over-Directness

As a young doctor building multiple holistic practices and managing a wide range of employees and partners, I hadn't yet discovered the graceful effectiveness of The 5 Phases of Speaking Your Truth.

I thus burned many bridges behind me both personally and professionally.

But over the next decades, without being conscious of it at first, I began to observe what I did that caused some relationships to fall apart, and others to thrive . . .

what at times made me a difficult personal or business partner, and at others, an irresistible companion and trailblazer.

I learned the most studying biographies about great luminaries.

Every night for 2 years straight, I fell asleep reading over and over Nelson Mandela's 656-page autobiography, Long Walk to Freedom.

The words of this book, and other books and movies such as Richard Attenborough's classic movie, Gandhi, reverberated in my heart and rose up through my soul.

From watching such movies over and over and reading such books as Mandela's — not so much as an intellectual process, but more as a gentle rewiring of my entire inner framework — I slowly began forming new behavioral patterns.

These gave me greater and greater adeptness at the quiet and largely non-verbal techniques the great luminaries I was studying used to lift humanity and change the world.

The ability I gradually developed to resolve and avoid conflict and to create harmonious and lasting relationships with these resistance-free techniques has served me well for many years now.

After selling my last clinic in the 1990s, what I have come to call The 5 Phases of Speaking Your Truth enabled me to build the relationships necessary to make my first book, The 9 Insights of the Wealthy Soul, into a bestselling book series four years in a row (2004 through 2007).

While forging that path and building an audience of 129,000 online subscribers, these same skills enabled me to transform fourteen years as the full-time caregiver to my mother into a beautiful life experience.

My mother had Alzheimer's and the experience immeasurably added to the evolution of The 5 Phases and their effectiveness in positively shifting just about any kind of imaginable relationship.

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After my mothers passing, I used The 5 Phases to build technology teams, acquire investors, receive foundational patents in the social media arena, and to operate in some of the highest circles both in Silicon Valley and in Washington, D.C.

Michael Is From Mars,
Susanna Is From Venus!

(Who is your partner,
and what planet are they from?)

I now also use The 5 Phases daily to strengthen and deepen my bond with Susanna, a world-renowned sculptress and my significant other.

In the video below, Susanna speaks very candidly about how The 5 Phases provides a bridge across a divide that is very common between men and women —

that oftentimes one partner speaks their truth very readily and even bluntly (my lifelong tendency — and the reason I developed The 5 Phases).

And the other partner, typically the woman, tends to be more sensitive, passive and even people-pleasing.

This sets up a perilous situation for simmering resentments and difficult-to-heal wounds that serves neither the woman nor the man.

Susanna describes how The 5 Phases enables this Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus gap to be successfully bridged in our own relationship —

The 5 Phases empower you to eliminate conflict, create harmony and deepen and strengthen all your relationships.

What these skills have done for me, Susanna, my students, and for the world's greatest luminaries, so too will they do for you.

even issues you may have with the most difficult-to-handle people.

BUT . . .

Before you begin to develop these life-sustaining abilities, ask yourself:

Which of These Two Fatal Lies
do you tell yourself?

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Which of These Two Fatal Lies
do you tell yourself?

All of us create our own daily suffering by telling ourselves one of Two Lies related to Speaking Your Truth.

Now ask yourself:

Which one of the Two Fatal Lies do you most tell yourself?

Lie #1
Causing A Life of Quiet Desperation

If you too have bought into this destructive belief system, you believe that if you just keep quiet, things will somehow work out on their own.

If you are among the majority of the population who have bought into this idea of Not Making Waves and Not Stirring the Hornet's Nest, you may still have a good job, financial security, and even have a reasonably good family life

No matter how much you smile and how well you hide this discontent from everyone else . . . you can't hide it from yourself.

Your life is on slow simmer.

And this is why you're silently suffering.

Lie #2
Causing A Life of Burned Relationships

Lie #2 is the opposite of Lie #1.

Paradoxically, it still leads to the same silent suffering.

The Myth of the Straight Shooter

Lie #2 is that being a straight shooter is a good thing.

And what perpetuates this lie is the confusing fact that, it is good to express your thoughts and feelings.

And, as indicated by Sherry in the video above, sometimes the most appropriate thing is just to Hit The Nail on The Head.

But just like anything good — whether we're talking about ice cream, chocolate, romance, sex or hard work, there is a perilous downside —

Too much of any good thing not only becomes addictive, it becomes destructive.

Most of us won't soon forget the My Way or The Highway gridlock that occurred with our government's leaders that resulted in the government shutting down for nearly 5 weeks in January 2019.

Exactly as we see happened in our country, being a proud take-it-or-leave-it straight-shooter leads to confrontation, conflict and continual frustration and resentment.

While we admire the person who steps forward and Tells It Like It Is, have you ever worked with or lived with someone who is this type of straight-shooter?

Your tendency with such people is to shoot straight back.

Niggling, Nagging and Nitpicking

In our personal relationships, we call such straight shooting niggling, nagging and nitpicking.

And it's simply no fun living with someone who niggles, nags or nitpicks!

Such dynamics usually end in either an unhappy and tension-filled relationship or . . . divorce.

In business relationships, one word we use for such continual straight-shooting is micro-managing.

If you are a habitual straight-shooter, you have subconsciously bought into the philosophy that it's more important to be right than to be happy.

You may get others to back down, making you think you are right. But you will never experience true happiness or fulfillment in a relationship.

The reason is that, given 7.5 billion people on the planet, there are virtually 7.5 billion ways of viewing anything!

Countless factors give each of us a different context . . . a different shade . . . a different perspective when viewing and responding to anything.

These factors include:

The reason we react defensively to a different perspective than ours is a result of the 100 billion neurons in our brains.

There is a near infinite number of different meanings each of us perceive from the same experience.

That's to say, we all have an endless array of personal filters through which we view the world differently than the way anyone else does.

Image from Module 10

BEFORE YOU LEARN MORE
ABOUT THE 5 PHASES

What is your perspective
on what you believe is being shown
in this photo?

The answer will automatically appear
along with the next section of the course after you
check one of the possibilities below —

CORRECT!

The image is an electron microscope view of some of the
100 billion nerve cells in your brain!

So, stop a moment and be honest:

In your own life, if you equate Telling The Way It Is with just being honest, ask yourself the following question —

How many members of your family and colleagues
have suffered from you believing
The Way It Is For You
is The Way It Is For Them?

Damned if You Do,
Damned if You Don't

Thoreau memorably stated, "The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation."

And indeed, whether you tend to live by Lie #1 or Lie #2, your relationships are adversely affected as a result.

It seems you are damned if you do speak your truth, and damned if you don't.

What can the solution possibly be to more harmonious business and personal relationships?

Click which option below, more than the other, you typically use (despite that neither is a solution at all) —

Is there an answer?

Take heart. Yes! There is an answer. . .

one that will transform every part of your life.

The solution resides in a phased approach. And you can use this phased approach in literally all situations where there's any possibility of friction.

Interestingly enough, this phased approach is neither passive (Letting Sleeping Dogs Lie) nor aggressive (Telling The Way It Is).

It's not even assertive, as assertiveness tends to be just another form of Telling The Way It Is.

Zero Force

The most beautiful thing about the phased approach is it requires zero force, it creates zero friction and causes zero discord.

Using this phased approach, the other person naturally with zero resistance falls back into alignment with you.

And, most amazingly, they come back into harmony with you without them even knowing it!

But, how?

Each of The 5 Phases moves the other person and you so gently and so incrementally in the direction of greater harmony, that it doesn't appear you or they have done a thing!

Not all relationship issues fall into this category Steve is talking about.

But a lot of them do!

Check 1 or both of the following areas where The 5 Phases might help you resolve a conflict with someone:

The 5 Phases work like
the hour hand of a clock

Whereas the second hand moves continuously, the hour hand doesn't appear to move at all.

And yet the hour hand is the more important indicator of change.

In fact, a clock can indicate time perfectly well without a second or even a minute hand. And yet it's the hour hand that moves invisibly versus the much more eye-catching motion of the second hand.

The 5 Phases works similarly . . .

unnoticed yet inevitably creating change.

Mirror Neurons

The 5 Phases work with deep neurological reflexes and corresponding spiritual principles alive in every human being.

An example of one of the multiple neurological phenomena you will become a master at employing beginning with Module 1 of the Masterclass is understanding the phenomenon of Mirror Neurons.

Mirror Neurons provide a neurological response system that causes other people to subconsciously mimic our behavior. From the most simplistic level, you see this everyday:

• You smile, others smile back.
• You frown, others frown back.
• You say hello, others automatically say hello back.

On a non-verbal and less apparent level:

• When you trust others, they tend to trust you back.
• When you are distrustful of others, they tend to be distrustful of you.
• When you radiate quiet confidence, others tend to feel more confident about you...and even about themselves

Softening Difficult People

The 5 Phases of Speaking Your Truth work so effectively by allowing you to align with the deepest nature of other people.

The 5 Phases even allow you to align with difficult people.

These individuals, while appearing to be combative and argumentative, on the deepest level, want to find greater harmony with you. Even more, they want to experience greater harmony inside their own selves.

As Curtis and Erin learned, there's a great Catch-22 when you attempt to come back into harmony with difficult people -

If you seem like you are trying to get them to be more reasonable with you, they will usually resist.

The reason is, no one likes to feel like they are being handled . . .

especially someone who is oppositional.

Despite how advanced and effective many negotiation, sales, and communication techniques may be, these strategies still can make the other person feel like they are being handled.

In a moment, you will read exactly what each of The 5 Phases are.

But first, based on what you understand so far about The 5 Phases, check your answer:

What is the single most important factor in successfully using The 5 Phases?

The 5 Phases
of Speaking Your Truth

The 5 Phases are:

1. Holding the Space
2. Speaking the Other's Truth First
3. Allowing the Other to Speak Your Truth
4. Asking Questions of Grace
5. Hitting the Nail on the Head

Each of these 5 Phases have anywhere from 3 to 10 variations, and even more fine points.

Beginning with Module 1 of the workshop, you will begin mastering these powerful nuances and . . .

you will begin to become an expert at knowing which of the many variations of each Phase to use in a particular situation.

Employing The 5 Phases will enable you to shift any type of tension, discord, or conflict in your relationships into an automatic self-aligning harmony and congruence.

A Huge "But"

All that said, there is a huge "But"

And that is that The 5 Phases take practice.

From Module 1 of the Masterclass onward, you will begin creating major leaps in your relationships.

BUT . . .

. . . without understanding and practicing the beautiful and all-important variations of how to effectively employ each Phase, your ability and success with The 5 Phases will only reach a certain level.

This means -

without understanding and practicing the many subtleties of The 5 Phases — which we do in depth in each module — you may run into a brick wall in a number of trickier situations.

Holding the Space
(Phase 1)

Holding the Space provides the entire foundation for all the other 4 Phases of Speaking Your Truth.

It is the technique you will find yourself using more than any other.

Yet as simple as it is, it is the most difficult technique to make a reflex when you are in a potential conflict . . .

or when you feel the need to set a boundary.

Our first job to effectively Speak Our Truth and to get what we need, is to overcome our lifetime of reactivity. . .

our automatic Fight or Flight response that makes us want to either attack or go into hiding.

In the first 3 modules of the Masterclass, we practice over and over again 3 extremely simple techniques that allow you to effortlessly Hold the Space.

Once you get adept at the 3 simple breathing techniques of Holding the Space, you often will never have to utter a word to head off an argument.

You will automatically get the other person to let go of whatever they are holding onto.

Thus, the entire relationship with that person with whom you may otherwise be in conflict will naturally shift to one of cooperation, collaboration and congeniality.

Speak The Other's Truth
(Phase 2)

There are 7 simple techniques of Phase 2, Speaking the Other's Truth. These include agreeing, validating and using humor.

Allow Them to Speak Your Truth
(Phase 3)

Phase 3 of Allowing the Other to Speak Your Truth creates the most magical and gratifying result in the entire Speaking Your Truth process.

This is that unforgettable moment you have been waiting for —

when the other person you may have been at odds with finally Speaks Your Truth For You!

This often comes in the form of a sincere apology —

The Phase 3 techniques you will learn in the Masterclass are actually used while you are talking!

This is as opposed to the Phase 1 breathing techniques, which you use while listening.

Questions of Grace
(Phase 4)

Asking Questions of Grace rather than making blunt, assumptive statements, is one of the most common ways to Speak Your Truth more gracefully and get the other person to automatically align with you.

Listen to Sherry and Bob share how the 4 types of Questions you will learn in Module 9 of the Masterclass helped them to head off arguments and improve all their relationships.

Please note:

Asking these Questions is so natural, when Susanna now uses one of the 4 types of Questions of Grace with me, I never even realize it!

And I'm the one who created this Masterclass!

Hitting the Nail on the Head
(Phase 5)

Only in approximately 5% of the circumstances will you ever need to engage one of the resistance-free techniques you will learn for Hitting the Nail on the Head.

Approximately 95% of the time, your issue with another person will be resolved after you use Phase 1, 2, 3 or 4.

Yet the ironic thing is, most people unfamiliar with The 5 Phases, speak their truth solely using a confrontational Hitting the Nail on the Head tone.

We have many expressions for this:

• Telling the way it is
• Being a straight-shooter
• Laying it on the line
• Telling another to take it or leave it

The problem with straight-shooting, is the other person tends to mirror you . . .

Meaning, they want to shoot straight back!

And all that results is a shooting war.

Unfortunately, most people not familiar with The 5 Phases perceive Hitting the Nail on the Head as this very type of blunt and confrontational act.

In contrast, using The 5 Phases, the other person becomes far more open and receptive if Hitting the Nail on the Head becomes necessary.

This results in a much happier outcome where everyone's needs are met.

The Fight or Flight Reflex

The need for practice and becoming good at the refinements of The 5 Phases is due to the well-known Fight or Flight Reflex.

As soon as you trigger this primitive biological response in yourself or another, it's all over.

There is no chance at that time of creating harmony with that person . . . and possibly for a long while afterward.

This is why the majority of the population buys into Lie #1 of Not Making Waves.

Yet, what if there was a way to avoid tripping this fatal Fight or Flight booby trap?

Showing versus Telling

Showing versus Telling is one of the many fine points of Phase 5 of Speaking Your Truth that you will begin to master in the course.

Telling something to someone with whom you are trying to avoid conflict gets their Fight or Flight juices flowing.

And it gives them a hook to argue with you.

In contrast, showing them leaves nothing for them to argue about.

And rather than resisting, they naturally align with you.

The Big Deal and The Big Fight
(pt 1)

The following 3 segments are found in Module 10 of the Masterclass.
In them, you will see several clips from Beyond the Tank
a spin-off show from Shark Tank.

Watch savvy investor and entrepreneur, Lori Greiner, gracefully
Show vs Tell to resolve a major argument.
This would have cost her and the entrepreneurs in whom she invested
millions of dollars in sales of their product —

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yJvu3_hbIIo

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What Is This Transformation
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The most important questions to ask yourself is, starting from Week 1 of the course onward —

• How different will my relationships be with my significant other and closest loved ones if I can begin dissolving the tension, discord and conflict in those relationships?


• How much more successful will I be if I can draw healthy boundaries while strengthening each of my relationships with my co-workers, employees, boss, teammates and/or business partners . . . rather than feeling like I am always on the verge of a disagreement or confrontation?


• How many more goals will I be able to achieve after acquiring the skills to avoid conflict and lead others via The 5 Phases . . . . . . compared to if I let this opportunity slip by?

Looking forward to meeting you personally in the Masterclass!

Warmest regards,