This is for you, even if . . .
  • You have a hard time speaking up for yourself . . .
  • You tend to be too blunt and hurt other's feelings . . .
  • You're inclined to get sad, emotional or angry when you're not being heard.
This is especially for you if . . .
  • You're terrified of creating waves and making things worse than they already are . . .
  • You're on the verge of divorce . . .
  • You're inclined to get sad, emotional or angry when you're not being heard.
  • You're about to be served with a lawsuit . . .
  • Or you're simply dealing with someone who doesn't listen or take you seriously . . .

Speaking Up For Yourself:
Dammed if you do,
Dammed if you Don't

Most people are terrified to ask for what they most need.

Perhaps you hesitate asking your spouse, children or even an employee to take certain responsibilities so you don't feel overwhelmed doing so much yourself.

Or maybe you are giving yourself a half dozen excuses why you shouldn't ask for a promotion . . . when you've been passed by multiple times before by others less qualified.

Or it could be reluctance to tell a friend, a teenaged child or your significant other that a certain behavior is wearing on your nerves.

It can be something as everyday as your spouse turning on the television and zoning out when they get home from work. You smile and pretend everything is wonderful, but deep inside, you desperately desire to spend more time with this loved one, sharing your thoughts, feelings, goals and desires . . .

You wish you could Speak Your Truth but feel you won't be heard . . .

or even worse . . . you will be shut down.

Below, listen to Sherry Farrell, a real estate broker and mom,
hilariously describe the tongue-tied bind she finds herself in when
wanting to express her needs —

"You start off saying keep peace at all costs . . .
and you silently suffer . . ."

Below, listen to Dr. Deborah Kearney, a prominent educator and founder of Job Smart Enterprises describe the tortuous bind she too experiences when wanting to Speak Her Truth —

"The problem of Speaking Your Truth
is working through the emotion of it.
I don't do it well."

If you're a man, you also are not alone in your challenges in speaking up to get your needs fulfilled:

Listen to what Wayne, a gentleman I struck up a conversation with,
had to say about the problems he faces
Speaking His Truth —

"Most people lie to each other
and call it having a relationship."

Which issues regarding speaking up for yourself
apply most to you?

Check one or all below,
then proceed onto the course:

Shockingly, even the most powerful people in the world can feel inhibited and squashed when trying to Speak Their Truth.

Secretary of State Madeleine Albright

Listen to what this powerful woman confesses —

"It took me a long time
to develop a public voice . . ."

The difficulties in life and relationships not being able to express your needs and Speak Your Truth are pervasive.

When the #MeToo Movement suddenly exploded forth just a few years ago, many women finally found the courage to step forward and Speak Their Truth.

Hear these famous actresses coming forward and describing their
experiences of sexual harassment and abuse:

Julia Roberts
Rose McGowan
Alyssa Milano
Mary J. Blige
and others —

"I've been silenced for 20 years."

"This is the worst, this quiet insidious cruelty."

"It's a horrible thing to hold onto something you
can't tell anyone about."

"The world didn't do anything."

"Nobody cared."

Indeed, a Speaking Your Truth Revolution has begun sweeping the globe.

The #MeToo, #BlackLivesMatter and #NeverAgain movements continue to be in the news nearly every week. This is after generations of silence and repression about sexual harassment, political racism and gun violence in our children's schools.

The harmful effects of an inability to Speak Your Truth often isn't as dramatic as outright abuse.

Like most people — women and men alike — you may feel you are not getting what you most need in your relationships.

Barbara Marx Hubbard

In 2018, during the height of the explosive uprising of these
Social Truth Movements, I interviewed Barbara Marx Hubbard,
the beloved founder of the Conscious Evolution Movement.

Before she began speaking about how
The 5 Phases of Speaking Your Truth
can begin influencing humankind's advancement,

Barbara talked about the opportunity the "crisis" was providing us —

Barbara Marx Hubbard

"Crisis precedes transformation."

Speaking Your Truth with your spouse, with your family, in your career, and even as a change-maker in the world, doesn't have to involve offending others or putting on superficial airs of being "fierce."

Rather, discovering how to Speak Your Truth using 5 simple yet powerful "Phases" enables you to effortlessly get what you need in all areas of your life.

And it does so in a manner that automatically causes the other person to want to give you what you most desire.

Chief Judge Paul Michel

Former Watergate Prosecutor
and Chief Judge of the United States Court of Appeals

talks about The 5 Phases of Speaking Your Truth —

"I believe that Michael Norwood's 5 Phases
are desperately needed in today's society. . ."

Starting with the very first lesson in this 10-module online Masterclass, you will begin using The 5 Phases to eliminate conflict, deepen and strengthen all your relationships, soften even the hardest people, and to uncover your hidden ability to impact and influence others.

Below, you can begin following the journey of 7 students who took The 5 Phases workshop and see how this Masterclass began transforming their lives, their work and their most precious relationships -

(Psychology Professor)

"This course is helping me...
to take more control of how I'm feeling and reacting."

You will immediately begin using Module 1 of the workshop to:
  • Dissolve stress with your significant other
  • Soften unreasonableness with family members (including parents and children!)
  • Set boundaries that will be respected
  • Make your home life joyful again
On a professional level, starting with Module 1, you will begin having at your fingertips the skills to:
  • Resolve conflicts with coworkers and business partners
  • Remove resistance with customers and in key negotiations
  • Build powerful teams to accomplish your goals

(Senior Mortgage Loan Officer)

"It's seamless and smooth.
This process actually makes it
pleasant to solve problems!"

By the end of the workshop, you will be well on your way to being a master at the fine art of:
  • Creating harmonious relationships
  • Handling difficult people
  • Being someone who quietly leads by example
  • Accomplishing major goals without conflict
  • Resolving disagreements
  • Deepening personal relationships and strengthening professional ones
  • Building and motivating teams and inspiring all those around yo

(I.T. Specialist)

"Just the first couple of Phases are enough...
where there's no arguments, there's no discord
and people are not frustrated."

Speaking Your Truth in a manner that gets you what you most need while at the same time building a personal or business relationship up rather than tearing it down, is the most essential and valuable skill you will ever acquire in your entire life. Bar none.

College Instructor, Life Coach

"In any interaction you're having with people,
this is invaluable..."

** Women:

Would it be helpful if more men in your life developed the skills these men learned for listening, hearing and respecting the women to whom they are speaking?

** Men:

Would it be helpful if more women in your life developed the ability to clearly ask for what they need?

A New Way of Life

Without the ability to ask for what you most need and to set healthy boundaries, it will be impossible for you to have a truly happy relationship or fulfilling family life and marriage.

And professionally, without this ability to Speak Your Truth, you will never live up to your true potential or achieve what you are capable of achieving and earning.

No one is born with this ability. Yet this most critical of all life skills is not taught in school, by our parents, or even when you get a job.

In fact, you cannot get this training anywhere else .

While there are many techniques out there, what you are about to learn is a new way of relating to others . . .

and a new way in which they will relate to you.

In fact, it's a new way of life.

(Geophysicist, Coast Guard Veteran, Horse Trainer)

"It's allowed me to be a calmer person.
And it's allowed me to be less judgmental."

5 Secrets of The Greatest Leaders

The skills you will learn in the workshop and immediately begin putting into practice are the same ones developed by history's greatest leaders -

Nelson Mandela, Martin Luther King, Mother Theresa, Mahatma Gandhi, the Dalai Lama, Oprah Winfrey. . .

These are all people who have changed cultures and entire societies

Watch this clip from
Oprah's 2018 Golden Globe Acceptance Speech,
centered around Speaking Your Truth —

"Speaking Your Truth
is the most powerful tool we all have . . . "

The lives of these luminaries, through the power of their mere presence, have compelled others to want to join and help them in whatever way they can.

Watch this clip from the trailer for Long Walk to Freedom.
Nelson Mandela shares a profound Speaking Your Truth secret
that empowered him to survive 27 years in prison
and to never give up hope —

"No one is born hating another person.
People learn to hate.
They can be taught to love.
For love comes more naturally to the human heart."

Mandela was able to transform his life-giving ideals into effective words and actions.

After a lifetime of experiencing violent repression and 27 years spent as a political prisoner of the government, he overcame the repressive Apartheid regime to unite his country.

Director Leslie Cap Dean
was a senior State Department Official in South Africa.
He aided Nelson Mandela in making the transition peaceful from the
White Apartheid government to Black majority rule.

Listen to Director Dean's words about
Mandela, the peace process and The 5 Phases —

"The 5 Phases provide some of those steps
that are so essential."

Learning to Transform Reactivity
in Yourself and Others

If you think Cap Dean, Nelson Mandela, Oprah Winfrey, Chief Judge Paul Michel and all the other luminaries named above were born with these skills, you would be buying into an unfortunate myth.

Just as you are now taking the first steps to learn The 5 Phases, these greats chose to make peacemaking a lifelong study.

This starts with the conscious decision to resist the all-too-common natural human impulse toward reactivity.

Barbara Marx Hubbard shares in my interview with her
how The 5 Phases of Speaking Your Truth breaks through
that primitive reactivity in all of us —

Barbara Marx Hubbard

"Everybody should {learn The 5 Phases},
because when I think about the amount of trouble,
pain, war is caused by people not doing this..."

The 5 Phases of Speaking Your Truth was formulated over decades of seeing how being in denial of the need for Speaking Your Truth or speaking it in the confrontational My-Way-Or-The-Highway style so typically used nowadays is at the basis of all our greatest problems.

This isn't just on a governmental and political level.

It applies most importantly to every one of our personal relationships.

Hear Bob describe how The 5 Phases techniques
have made him "less reactive" and "less defensive" —

"Any sort of issue that could've started to happen
is smoothed out..."

Beginning in the 1990s, I began studying the extremely subtle yet extraordinarily powerful skills of our greatest leaders.

But before those lessons became formulated into The 5 Phases, I made numerous mistakes that cost me many important relationships.

How the death of my sister
changed everything

Six years of my childhood were spent with a dear sister fighting cancer. She died when she was 18 and when I was 16.

Prior to her loss, I had a lot of inhibitions expressing myself. But after my sister's death, I had a life-altering revelation:

I realized I would get more and more upset when I held things in . . .

meaning, when I wasn't being honest and speaking my truth.

I thus adopted an unusual philosophy —

I vowed to live the rest of my life without harboring a single resentment. I decided that —

I would rather have you be mad at me, than me be mad at you.

Listen to Sherry describe how
hearing those words in the Masterclass was
the beginning of a major life shift for her —

"You live with that sometimes for years —
that I should have spoken my truth."

If like 90% of the population you tend to avoid Speaking Your Truth out of fear that someone will get upset with you,

adopting this new attitude can be life-changing for you too.

But just as not Speaking Your Truth creates many problems, so too Speaking Your Truth too directly creates other types of undesirable consequences.

Hear Chief Judge Paul Michel describe how much more effective it
is to Speak Your Truth using The 5 Phases versus the more direct
My Way or the Highway style that characterizes how most people
attempt to Speak Their Truth —

"The more indirect the technique was
the more effective it turned out to be."

Hell-On-Wheels in Relationships

Though almost everyone throughout my life would describe me as very kind-hearted, my philosophy of "I'd rather you be mad at me than me be mad at you" resulted in me tending toward over-directness.

The end result was, I could be hell-on-wheels in relationships.

While I don't believe anyone would say I have a mean bone in my body, it's not easy being around someone who can be as straightforward as I tended to be.

Men tend to adopt this very straightforward style more than women.
Charles talks about how the techniques of The 5 Phases
enables him to overcome this tendency —

"Whether it's with your wife, with your children,
with a boss or with workers . . .
it's worked for me."

Burning Bridges from

As a young doctor building multiple holistic practices and managing a wide range of employees and partners, I hadn't yet discovered the graceful effectiveness of The 5 Phases of Speaking Your Truth.

I thus burned many bridges behind me both personally and professionally.

But over the next decades, without being conscious of it at first, I began to observe what I did that caused some relationships to fall apart, and others to thrive . . .

what at times made me a difficult personal or business partner, and at others, an irresistible companion and trailblazer.

I learned the most studying biographies about great luminaries.

Every night for 2 years straight, I fell asleep reading over and over Nelson Mandela's 656-page autobiography, Long Walk to Freedom.

The words of this book, and other books and movies such as Richard Attenborough's classic movie, Gandhi, reverberated in my heart and rose up through my soul.

Watch this short lesson from Module 3 of
The 5 Phases Masterclass
about the movie Gandhi —

"We're going to explore movies
that exhibit these 5 Phases qualities."
— Michael

Now watch this inspiring scene from Gandhi.
The scene demonstrates a profound technique you will learn that will
begin to transform any discord in your life
into a blossoming peace and harmony —

"You will not strike back
nor will you be turned aside."
— Gandhi

From watching such movies over and over and reading such books as Mandela's — not so much as an intellectual process, but more as a gentle rewiring of my entire inner framework — I slowly began forming new behavioral patterns.

These gave me greater and greater adeptness at the quiet and largely non-verbal techniques the great luminaries I was studying used to lift humanity and change the world.

Watch video below from Module ___ on how The 5 Phases
automatically shifts whoever you are dealing with away from being
resistant and oppositional, to being completely receptive and open.

And The 5 Phases does this without the other person even realizing it! —

"We're creating Receptivity
instead of resistance
so others open up
much more naturally to us."

The ability I gradually developed to resolve and avoid conflict and to create harmonious and lasting relationships with these resistance-free techniques has served me well for many years now.

After selling my last clinic in the 1990s, what I have come to call The 5 Phases of Speaking Your Truth enabled me to build the relationships necessary to make my first book, The 9 Insights of the Wealthy Soul, into a bestselling book series four years in a row (2004 through 2007).

The 9 Insights of the Wealthy Soul book

While forging that path and building an audience of 129,000 online subscribers, these same skills enabled me to transform fourteen years as the full-time caregiver to my mother into a beautiful life experience.

My mother had Alzheimer's and the experience immeasurably added to the evolution of The 5 Phases and their effectiveness in positively shifting just about any kind of imaginable relationship.

In a Speech at The Movement Conference, Michael reveals a
revolutionary secret to Speaking Your Truth in a friction-free manner.
He learned this key from watching famous improv artists.
Michael used this technique everyday
while taking care of his mom —

"In Alzheimer's,
as their mind and their ego slowly recedes. . .
their heart and their spirit expands."

If you'd like to receive a link to the full
45-Minute talk about The 5 Phases Michael
gave at The Movement Conference Click here

After my mothers passing, I used The 5 Phases to build technology teams, acquire investors, receive foundational patents in the social media arena, and to operate in some of the highest circles both in Silicon Valley and in Washington, D.C.

Michael Is From Mars,
Susanna Is From Venus!

(Who is your partner,
and what planet are they from?)

I now also use The 5 Phases daily to strengthen and deepen my bond with Susanna, a world-renowned sculptress and my significant other.

In the video below, Susanna speaks very candidly about how The 5 Phases provides a bridge across a divide that is very common between men and women —

that oftentimes one partner speaks their truth very readily and even bluntly (my lifelong tendency — and the reason I developed The 5 Phases).

And the other partner, typically the woman, tends to be more sensitive, passive and even people-pleasing.

This sets up a perilous situation for simmering resentments and difficult-to-heal wounds that serves neither the woman nor the man.

Susanna describes how The 5 Phases enables this Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus gap to be successfully bridged in our own relationship —

( Sculptress )

"Our relationship thrives
as a result of practicing these 5 Phases."

The 5 Phases empower you to eliminate conflict, create harmony and deepen and strengthen all your relationships.

What these skills have done for me, Susanna, my students, and for the world's greatest luminaries, so too will they do for you.

even issues you may have with the most difficult-to-handle people.

BUT . . .

Before you begin to develop these life-sustaining abilities, ask yourself:

Which of These Two Fatal Lies
do you tell yourself?

Click to:

Which of These Two Fatal Lies
do you tell yourself?

All of us create our own daily suffering by telling ourselves one of Two Lies related to Speaking Your Truth.

Now ask yourself:

Which one of the Two Fatal Lies do you most tell yourself?

Lie #1
Causing A Life of Quiet Desperation

Lie #1 can be summed up by the beliefs:
  • "If I say something, it will just make it worse."
  • "If I say something, I'll rock the boat."
  • "I should keep peace at all costs."

Hear Sherry describing how before learning The 5 Phases of Speaking Your Truth,
the above beliefs made her life one of self-repression and anger —

"I would go out of my way
to keep them from being angry.
The consequence is
I'd take the anger home with me."

If you too have bought into this destructive belief system, you believe that if you just keep quiet, things will somehow work out on their own.

The following words consciously or subconsciously have become your anthem:
  • "Don't stir the hornet's nest."
  • "Just let sleeping dogs lie."
  • "Don't make waves."
Over time, these quiet but dangerous niceties evolve into a subtle, unacknowledged, and yet simmering discontent
  • With the life you may be settling for . . .
  • With your significant other's inability to completely meet your needs . . .
  • With your parents for somehow wounding you . . .
  • And with yourself for not living up to your potential.
You may also in some subtle way feel victimized . . .
  • in your relationships . . .
  • in your job . . .
  • by the government . . .
  • by the system.

Listen to Erin describe how,
like so many women — and men as well —
she tends toward this common type of
avoidance and denial

"Learning those steps to
move to the other side of the spectrum
has been really helpful."

If you are among the majority of the population who have bought into this idea of Not Making Waves and Not Stirring the Hornet's Nest, you may still have a good job, financial security, and even have a reasonably good family life

But somehow, you feel you are . . .
  • Living a lie . . .
  • A life of mediocrity . . .
  • That you have settled for second best in your personal
    and professional relationships . . .
  • Or even with your dreams.

No matter how much you smile and how well you hide this discontent from everyone else . . . you can't hide it from yourself.

Your life is on slow simmer.

And this is why you're silently suffering.

Hear Sherry describe how before The 5 Phases Masterclass,
she was focused on
"not creating conflict" —

"What this course taught me is,
many times I need to
hit the nail on the head."

Before proceeding onto discover what Lie #2 is,
be honest with yourself and acknowledge if
Lie #1 applies to you or not:

Lie #2
Causing A Life of Burned Relationships

Lie #2 is the opposite of Lie #1.

Paradoxically, it still leads to the same silent suffering.

The Myth of the Straight Shooter

Lie #2 is that being a straight shooter is a good thing.

And what perpetuates this lie is the confusing fact that, it is good to express your thoughts and feelings.

And, as indicated by Sherry in the video above, sometimes the most appropriate thing is just to Hit The Nail on The Head.

But just like anything good — whether we're talking about ice cream, chocolate, romance, sex or hard work, there is a perilous downside —

Too much of any good thing not only becomes addictive, it becomes destructive.

Most of us won't soon forget the My Way or The Highway gridlock that occurred with our government's leaders that resulted in the government shutting down for nearly 5 weeks in January 2019.

Government Meeting in White House

Exactly as we see happened in our country, being a proud take-it-or-leave-it straight-shooter leads to confrontation, conflict and continual frustration and resentment.

While we admire the person who steps forward and Tells It Like It Is, have you ever worked with or lived with someone who is this type of straight-shooter?

Your tendency with such people is to shoot straight back.

Listen to Charles describe how this blunt,
take-it-or-leave-it approach
typically results in you getting nowhere,
often leaving you regretting what you said —

"The nice thing about The 5 Phases is it gives you a way of
working through it before you actually say something
you're going to regret . . ."

Niggling, Nagging and Nitpicking

In our personal relationships, we call such straight shooting niggling, nagging and nitpicking.

And it's simply no fun living with someone who niggles, nags or nitpicks!

Such dynamics usually end in either an unhappy and tension-filled relationship or . . . divorce.

In business relationships, one word we use for such continual straight-shooting is micro-managing.

If you are a habitual straight-shooter, you have subconsciously bought into the philosophy that it's more important to be right than to be happy.

Watch this brief lesson
from Module 1 of the Masterclass.
See how we as a society glamorize
the so-called "Straight-Shooter" —

in the Masterclass, we use many
movie and television clips to make
learning The 5 Phases
a total hoot!

You may get others to back down, making you think you are right. But you will never experience true happiness or fulfillment in a relationship.

The reason is that, given 7.5 billion people on the planet, there are virtually 7.5 billion ways of viewing anything!

Countless factors give each of us a different context . . . a different shade . . . a different perspective when viewing and responding to anything.

These factors include:

  • The country, region and even neighborhood you grew up in
  • The language you speak
  • How your parents raised you
  • Your religion
  • How passive or strong your parents were
  • Who your friends were and who they are now
  • Your educational level and focus
  • Your career path
  • Your socio-economic class
  • Your hobbies
  • The challenges you have been through
  • The losses you have suffered
  • The ease or struggle you went through with your finances

Listen to Curtis describe how a Phase 1 breathing technique
enables him to stay calm
and to avoid going into the typical
Tell Them The Way It Is judgmental mode —

"When you purposely take that time just to
hold your space and breathe...
you get control of your emotions."

The reason we react defensively to a different perspective than ours is a result of the 100 billion neurons in our brains.

There is a near infinite number of different meanings each of us perceive from the same experience.

That's to say, we all have an endless array of personal filters through which we view the world differently than the way anyone else does.

Sunglasses with different lenses

Image from Module 10

In the video below from Module 4 of The 5 Phases of Speaking Your Truth Masterclass,
I talk about how critical it is to understand that your perspective often is
vastly different from the other person's perspective.

"The only hope of being able to bridge that gap
is if the other person feels you get their perspective."


What is your perspective
on what you believe is being shown
in this photo?

nerve cells in your brain

The answer will automatically appear
along with the next section of the course after you
check one of the possibilities below —


The image is an electron microscope view of some of the
100 billion nerve cells in your brain!

Listen to Bob describe how practicing The 5 Phases of Speaking Your Truth exercises
in the Masterclass about honoring different perspectives
has helped his marriage —

When I can see what my wife is saying
without trying to come up with
a solution to the problem...
that was a key.

So, stop a moment and be honest:

In your own life, if you equate Telling The Way It Is with just being honest, ask yourself the following question —

How many members of your family and colleagues
have suffered from you believing
The Way It Is For You
is The Way It Is For Them?

Damned if You Do,
Damned if You Don't

Thoreau memorably stated, "The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation."

And indeed, whether you tend to live by Lie #1 or Lie #2, your relationships are adversely affected as a result.

It seems you are damned if you do speak your truth, and damned if you don't.

What can the solution possibly be to more harmonious business and personal relationships?

Click which option below, more than the other, you typically use (despite that neither is a solution at all) —


Below, hear a gently lady who I
talked to at a drumming festival
describe the self-defeating way so many women
are trained from the time they are young —

From the word go, you're taught to be a lady,
you're taught to obey, to not defend
or speak up for yourself...

Is there an answer?

Take heart. Yes! There is an answer. . .

one that will transform every part of your life.

The solution resides in a phased approach. And you can use this phased approach in literally all situations where there's any possibility of friction.

Interestingly enough, this phased approach is neither passive (Letting Sleeping Dogs Lie) nor aggressive (Telling The Way It Is).

It's not even assertive, as assertiveness tends to be just another form of Telling The Way It Is.



Zero Force

The most beautiful thing about the phased approach is it requires zero force, it creates zero friction and causes zero discord.

Using this phased approach, the other person naturally with zero resistance falls back into alignment with you.

And, most amazingly, they come back into harmony with you without them even knowing it!

But, how?

Each of The 5 Phases moves the other person and you so gently and so incrementally in the direction of greater harmony, that it doesn't appear you or they have done a thing!

Hear Steve describe how
The 5 Phases of Speaking Your Truth
uncovers an extraordinary revelation about
many of your greatest people problems —

Utilizing these techniques could show you
there wasn't even a conflict to begin with!

Not all relationship issues fall into this category Steve is talking about.

But a lot of them do!

Check 1 or both of the following areas where The 5 Phases might help you resolve a conflict with someone:

The 5 Phases work like
the hour hand of a clock

Whereas the second hand moves continuously, the hour hand doesn't appear to move at all.

And yet the hour hand is the more important indicator of change.

In fact, a clock can indicate time perfectly well without a second or even a minute hand. And yet it's the hour hand that moves invisibly versus the much more eye-catching motion of the second hand.

The 5 Phases works similarly . . .

unnoticed yet inevitably creating change.

In the video below, from Phase 1 of the Masterclass,
watch Michael describe how
The 5 Phases work with
the same rhythms of nature and time —

The answer is, rather than Speaking Your Truth
in one singular confrontational act,
we do it in stages.

Mirror Neurons

The 5 Phases work with deep neurological reflexes and corresponding spiritual principles alive in every human being.

An example of one of the multiple neurological phenomena you will become a master at employing beginning with Module 1 of the Masterclass is understanding the phenomenon of Mirror Neurons.


Mirror Neurons provide a neurological response system that causes other people to subconsciously mimic our behavior. From the most simplistic level, you see this everyday:

  • You smile, others smile back.
  • You frown, others frown back.
  • You say hello, others automatically say hello back.

On a non-verbal and less apparent level:

  • When you trust others, they tend to trust you back.
  • When you are distrustful of others, they tend to be distrustful of you.
  • When you radiate quiet confidence, others tend to feel more confident about you...and even about themselves

In the video below also from the Phase 1 Module of the Masterclass,
watch Michael explain how Mirror Neurons enable you to get the other person to
automatically be in harmony with you as a mirror
of the harmony you create in them —

A lot of people didn't accept that something
so simple, so profound
could be at the basis of human behavior.

Hear Sherry describe how people in her life
mirror back to her the life-giving practices
she now uses from The 5 Phases of Speaking Your Truth Masterclass —

"I found the sheer consciousness of
taking a Course called Speaking Your Truth
helps me to Speak my Truth.
And more truth comes to me."

Softening Difficult People

The 5 Phases of Speaking Your Truth work so effectively by allowing you to align with the deepest nature of other people.

The 5 Phases even allow you to align with difficult people.

These individuals, while appearing to be combative and argumentative, on the deepest level, want to find greater harmony with you. Even more, they want to experience greater harmony inside their own selves.

Listen to Erin describe how the Masterclass
helped her relationship with her mom

"I have a mother who has a strong personality . . .
and so I've wanted to have a better
relationship with her..."

And listen to Curtis share how the Masterclass
helped him with a couple with whom he otherwise
may have flown off the hook and lost as clients —

"I judged them as being awful people . . .
{Later}, by Holding the Space it allowed me to see
there's a lot of sweet things about these people."

As Curtis and Erin learned, there's a great Catch-22 when you attempt to come back into harmony with difficult people -

If you seem like you are trying to get them to be more reasonable with you, they will usually resist.

The reason is, no one likes to feel like they are being handled . . .

especially someone who is oppositional.

Despite how advanced and effective many negotiation, sales, and communication techniques may be, these strategies still can make the other person feel like they are being handled.

In this brief lesson from the Phase ___ Module of the Masterclass, one of our students
describes the uncomfortable feeling of what it's like to be expertly handled.
This is followed by an example from the hit show, Burn Notice

"I'm very gun-shy about having people
start off with a list of positives.
The reaction I get is instantly defensive..."

Rather than making someone feel "handled",
The 5 Phases employ five simple strategies that create zero resistance
in the other person, as Sherry, Charles and Bob share here —

"This is about how to Speak Your Truth...
in such a way where you communicate with the
person instead of shutting them down."

"When you get where another person is coming from,
there's a special bond that's set up there."

"It's a simple technique and it's effective,
and it really has made the communication with my wife
a lot easier and friction free."

In a moment, you will read exactly what each of The 5 Phases are.

But first, based on what you understand so far about The 5 Phases, check your answer:

What is the single most important factor in successfully using The 5 Phases?

The 5 Phases
of Speaking Your Truth

The 5 Phases are:

  1. Holding the Space
  2. Speaking the Other's Truth First
  3. Allowing the Other to Speak Your Truth
  4. Asking Questions of Grace
  5. Hitting the Nail on the Head

Each of these 5 Phases have anywhere from 3 to 10 variations, and even more fine points.

Beginning with Module 1 of the workshop, you will begin mastering these powerful nuances and . . .

you will begin to become an expert at knowing which of the many variations of each Phase to use in a particular situation.

Employing The 5 Phases will enable you to shift any type of tension, discord, or conflict in your relationships into an automatic self-aligning harmony and congruence.

Hear Steve share how the Masterclass has super-charged both his
personal and business relationships —

"The personal relationships
that I have utilized the information in this course
have healed, and also,
my business relationships . . .
'through the roof!'"

A Huge "But"

All that said, there is a huge "But"

And that is that The 5 Phases take practice.

From Module 1 of the Masterclass onward, you will begin creating major leaps in your relationships.

BUT . . .

. . . without understanding and practicing the beautiful and all-important variations of how to effectively employ each Phase, your ability and success with The 5 Phases will only reach a certain level.

This means -

without understanding and practicing the many subtleties of The 5 Phases — which we do in depth in each module — you may run into a brick wall in a number of trickier situations.

Listen to Bob share a bad habit that you may have as well. It took
Bob a number of practice sessions during the Masterclass
to reduce this very common and harmful tendency

"One of the techniques that I had the hardest time with
was not interrupting.
Just that alone was really helpful . . ."

Holding the Space
(Phase 1)

Holding the Space provides the entire foundation for all the other 4 Phases of Speaking Your Truth.

It is the technique you will find yourself using more than any other.

Yet as simple as it is, it is the most difficult technique to make a reflex when you are in a potential conflict . . .

or when you feel the need to set a boundary.

Listen to Susanna describe
how using specific Holding the Space techniques
the other person becomes much more open and receptive -

"Once you put those things in practice
it's surprising how much better the communication is,
how much happier!"

Curtis describes how the Phase 1 techniques
have helped his relationships:

"One of the techniques that I had the hardest time with
was not interrupting.
Just that alone was really helpful . . ."

Our first job to effectively Speak Our Truth and to get what we need, is to overcome our lifetime of reactivity. . .

our automatic Fight or Flight response that makes us want to either attack or go into hiding.

In the first 3 modules of the Masterclass, we practice over and over again 3 extremely simple techniques that allow you to effortlessly Hold the Space.

Listen to Charles describe the power you will have
by learning how to
instantly turn on this magical harmony-creating state of being —

"The breathing techniques really help me
calm down, get centered, and really listen . . .
{They} have been fantastic."

Once you get adept at the 3 simple breathing techniques of Holding the Space, you often will never have to utter a word to head off an argument.

You will automatically get the other person to let go of whatever they are holding onto.

Thus, the entire relationship with that person with whom you may otherwise be in conflict will naturally shift to one of cooperation, collaboration and congeniality.

Listen to Steve share his experiences of exactly this type of
5 Phases magic here:

"Holding Your Space
is the one key piece.
It is much more effective
and you don't interject prematurely."

Listen to Bob share his experiences of how
Phase 1 has helped stop him being reactive:

"I've been less reactive, less defensive.
And one of the key contributors to that is
Holding the Space."

Speak The Other's Truth
(Phase 2)

There are 7 simple techniques of Phase 2, Speaking the Other's Truth. These include agreeing, validating and using humor.

Hear Charles and Bob share
how revolutionary these simple Phase 2 techniques have been
in their work and spousal relationships:

"When you get where another person is coming from
there is a special bond that's set up there.
And you can just see them relax . . ."

"Since I'm Speaking Their Truth more,
they also are able to hear
what I have to say.
It brings us together."

Allow Them to Speak Your Truth
(Phase 3)

Phase 3 of Allowing the Other to Speak Your Truth creates the most magical and gratifying result in the entire Speaking Your Truth process.

This is that unforgettable moment you have been waiting for —

when the other person you may have been at odds with finally Speaks Your Truth For You!

This often comes in the form of a sincere apology —

Watch Anderson Cooper report about Virginia Governor Ralph Northam.
The governor apologizes for the harm he did as a college student
posing for a highly-charged racist photo —

"I am deeply sorry.
I cannot undo the harm
my behavior caused then or today."
— Virginia Governor Ralph Northam

The Phase 3 techniques you will learn in the Masterclass are actually used while you are talking!

This is as opposed to the Phase 1 breathing techniques, which you use while listening.

Hear Susanna and Bob talk about
these extraordinary harmony-producing Phase 3 techniques —

"I learned to keep it very succinct . . .
and then to allow for the silence after
to allow the person to take in what I had said."

"It allowed me to focus on the other person,
and not so much on criticizing what they were saying.
That's just an added bonus."

Questions of Grace
(Phase 4)

Asking Questions of Grace rather than making blunt, assumptive statements, is one of the most common ways to Speak Your Truth more gracefully and get the other person to automatically align with you.

Listen to Sherry and Bob share how the 4 types of Questions you will learn in Module 9 of the Masterclass helped them to head off arguments and improve all their relationships.

"I like that we're taught to ask permission.
That I say to someone, can I share my thoughts with you?
It's much better than being passive aggressive
or walking away angry!"

"Asking Questions of Grace . . .
allows just what is needed in that moment."

"I've learned to be a lot more outspoken and say
'Would you mind if I respond to that?'"

Please note:

Asking these Questions is so natural, when Susanna now uses one of the 4 types of Questions of Grace with me, I never even realize it!

And I'm the one who created this Masterclass!

Hitting the Nail on the Head
(Phase 5)

Only in approximately 5% of the circumstances will you ever need to engage one of the resistance-free techniques you will learn for Hitting the Nail on the Head.

Approximately 95% of the time, your issue with another person will be resolved after you use Phase 1, 2, 3 or 4.

Yet the ironic thing is, most people unfamiliar with The 5 Phases, speak their truth solely using a confrontational Hitting the Nail on the Head tone.

We have many expressions for this:

  • Telling the way it is
  • Being a straight-shooter
  • Laying it on the line
  • Telling another to take it or leave it

Watch this brief clip from Phase 5 of the Masterclass
where Michael displays a famous line from
Dirty Harry to show how not to Speak Your Truth —

"Make My Day"
(NOT a 5 Phases phrase!!!)

The problem with straight-shooting, is the other person tends to mirror you . . .

Meaning, they want to shoot straight back!

And all that results is a shooting war.

Unfortunately, most people not familiar with The 5 Phases perceive Hitting the Nail on the Head as this very type of blunt and confrontational act.

In contrast, using The 5 Phases, the other person becomes far more open and receptive if Hitting the Nail on the Head becomes necessary.

This results in a much happier outcome where everyone's needs are met.

Listen to Sherry's touching story of how the graceful Hitting the Nail on the Head
techniques from the Masterclass
enabled her to avoid the resentment
she would have felt if she hadn't spoken her truth . . .

(And the other person was actually happy she did!)

"Many, many wonderful things happened
that would not have happened
had I not spoken my truth."

The Fight or Flight Reflex

The need for practice and becoming good at the refinements of The 5 Phases is due to the well-known Fight or Flight Reflex.

As soon as you trigger this primitive biological response in yourself or another, it's all over.

There is no chance at that time of creating harmony with that person . . . and possibly for a long while afterward.

This is why the majority of the population buys into Lie #1 of Not Making Waves.

Yet, what if there was a way to avoid tripping this fatal Fight or Flight booby trap?

In the following segment from Module 2 of the Masterclass,
you will see how you can actually rewire this Fight or Flight reflex.

A brief clip is shown from the movie Schindler's List
demonstrating how a single man, gracefully using
a simple Phase 5 technique, averted the murder of
hundreds of prisoners in a Nazi Concentration Camp —

"You can return to your families as men . . .
instead of murderers."

(Phase 5 technique of
Remind Me Of My Nobility)

Listen to Bob share how the exercises in the Masterclass
freed him from an instinctual reactionary response —
which you too may currently be experiencing —

"It short-circuited that instinctual response
that I've done for a long time."

Showing versus Telling

Showing versus Telling is one of the many fine points of Phase 5 of Speaking Your Truth that you will begin to master in the course.

Telling something to someone with whom you are trying to avoid conflict gets their Fight or Flight juices flowing.

And it gives them a hook to argue with you.

In contrast, showing them leaves nothing for them to argue about.

And rather than resisting, they naturally align with you.

The Big Deal and The Big Fight
(pt 1)

The following 3 segments are found in Module 10 of the Masterclass.
In them, you will see several clips from Beyond the Tank
a spin-off show from Shark Tank.

Watch savvy investor and entrepreneur, Lori Greiner, gracefully
Show vs Tell to resolve a major argument.
This would have cost her and the entrepreneurs in whom she invested
millions of dollars in sales of their product —

Lori Grenier's
Ingenius Show vs Tell Solution
(pt 2)

The Million Dollar Result!
(pt 3)

Selling Your Home

If you are selling your home and a potential buyer is trying to knock your price down, here's what smart sellers and real estate agents do —

Rather than expending energy arguing and attempting to justify your price, simply provide the potential buyer with comparables of previous home sales in the area.

If you have set a fair price based on such comparables, the argument with the other party will come to a quick end without you having to do a thing more.

Selling Anything

I use this same Show versus Tell concept when selling nearly anything.

For example, I own more than 100 domain names and I am occasionally approached about selling one. In most cases, the potential buyer starts off with a very lowball offer.

Watch in the brief lesson below from Module 10 of the Masterclass
how I have sold many domains names for
thousands of dollars with zero dickering back and forth —

Effective Boundary Setting

The same Showing versus Telling works magnificently with setting any kind of relationship boundary.

This includes fine points for knowing how to effectively set the boundaries of your comfort levels with your:

  • Spouse
  • Children
  • Co-workers
  • Employees
  • Team

Even with your Boss!

Listen to Bob share his experiences on how
The 5 Phases help him to automatically get others to see his perspective and
head off any argument —

"Resolving a situation that you
would normally be in opposition,
it just smoothes everything out."

You Will Use The 5 Phases

Every single day and with every person in your life, you will find yourself using The 5 Phases and their many variations.

Each technique brims with an atomic power all its own.

Listen to Erin, Charles and Steve describe
using The 5 Phases everyday to resolve and avoid conflict and to
create harmony in all their relationships —

"It would help in pretty much any situation,
from relationships, whether it's your family,
significant other, even at work."

"Anytime we can increase our communications skills
is going to help us in really every interaction
we have with anybody . . .
This is invaluable."

"Techniques you will be able to use
for your entire life in any type of conversation."

"Well this is something I use every day!"

The Benefit of
taking the Masterclass together -

If you are married or have a significant other, the Masterclass not only can save your relationship . . .

it will begin transforming a good relationship into a great one.

By providing the tools for you to eliminate simmering resentments and arguments with one another —

the very thing that slowly erodes even the best relationships —

together you will create a fertile field for sustained love, harmony and mutual sharing.

Listen to Bob and Susanna describe
how much of a difference The 5 Phases has made in their relationships
(me being the lucky beneficiary with Susanna!) —

"With my wife and I both taking the workshop . . .
it's just allowed things to
flow so much easier."

"The more we incorporate this in our lives,
the better our relationship is."

The Masterclass

From the comfort of your own home, the Masterclass is designed to give you expertise from the first day onward in using The 5 Phases to head off arguments and restore harmony at home and in work.

1 to 5 minute
Self Study Segments

Each of the 10 modules is broken down into easily digestible nuggets of approximately 1 to 5 minutes each . . .

just as you have experienced in this 5 Phases mini-course you have been taking.Bon-bons

Sitting in your favorite chair, recliner or bed, you will go through the easy-to-absorb pre-recorded online Masterclass modules at your own pace.

And you will have the course available to review over and over again for years to come!

Movie and Television Clips!!!

Learning The 5 Phases will literally be as fun and easy as going to the movies!

Hundreds of the lessons contain a short movie, television or news clip to make the techniques you are learning come alive.

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Following Fair Use legal standards on using such clips, I spent more than 20 months editing the original live course.

The time was largely spent combing through thousands of movies, TV and news clips, finding which best illustrated The 5 Phases concept you are learning in each 1 to 5 minute segment.

Watch this lesson with Michael from Module 1.
It contains a hilarious clip
from the wonderful movie
Fried Green Tomatoes.
It beautifully illustrates how, without The 5 Phases,
we all build up simmering resentments.
These slowly erode your most precious relationships —

90 Minutes per week

Michael Norwood

Each week, you will get together with me on a group video conference for 90 minutes.

If you miss a conference, no concern!

It will be recorded for you to see at your convenience.

"The way that he interacts and the way that he teaches
has been very effective in my life."

"Michael is a great teacher!"

with luminaries talking about The 5 Phases

Michael to date has done 4 multi-part interviews with various luminaries about how The 5 Phases is reflected in the most profound parts of their life and work.

With your membership in the full course, you will have immediate access to these interviews to help ingrain The 5 Phases in every aspect of your life.

The luminaries so far interviewed include:

producer from the hit show
Touched by an Angel

This classic show was about two beloved angels, Della Reese and Roma Downey, who in each episode used principles reflected in The 5 Phases to change a different character's life.

Michael and Rosanne talk about specific scenes and dialog incorporated in individual Touched by An Angel episodes that are beautiful examples of the techniques of The 5 Phases.

These examples help you incorporate The 5 Phases into all your own relationships to help your loved ones, and to make both them and you the human angels we all prefer to be!

retired Watergate Prosecutor,
Chief Judge of the United States Court of Appeals (ret)

Judge Michel discusses in 4 separate audio interviews with Michael how using 5 Phases methods, he resolved conflict at the highest level in American government and on critical national and international issues.

He also discusses using these techniques to avoid confrontation and to create harmony and cooperation with his own team of judges, officials, and with all who appeared in his court.

(Michael worked with Judge Michel in Washington D.C. in 2016 and 2017 on a critical issue to America's economy)

Interim Mayor of Baghdad, Iraq
(after U.S. takeover in 2003)
Former Head of USAID to South Africa

Michael did several interviews with Cap Dean, a veteran foreign service officer for the U.S. State Department.

Cap shares using methods similar to The 5 Phases to help Nelson Mandela make the peaceful transition from white minority rule to black majority rule in 1993 and 1994. After hundreds of years of repression, and decades of brutality and bloodshed, Cap Dean was responsible for funding NGOs and black-African enterprises in the crucial years leading up to Mandela's victory over Apartheid in S. Africa.

He also describes how Mandela was a master at using The 5 Phases. And he shares how important these techniques were for him (Cap) to restore order to Baghdad after the overthrow of Saddam Hussein in 2003.

Legendary Horse Whispere
7.5 million books sold
Honorary Member of the Royal Victorian Order
for Service to Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth of England

Michael did 4 interviews with Monty you will receive immediate access to about the similarities of The 5 Phases and Monty's famed Join-Up® procedures.

Join-Up revolutionized the horse training field by allowing wild horses, in under an hour of gentle training, to be ridden.

Monty's techniques replaced the brutal "breaking" procedures used for millenia and are a direct parallel to Michael's work with The 5 Phases to eliminate the confrontation and conflict created with the classic form of Speaking Your Truth.

"Several things are happening with me right now.
And one of those things is Michael.
The last time I was on with you
many things resonated . . ."

The 4 Ingredients
of each LIVE conference

Each live conference will consist of:


    You will be able to ask and have all your questions answered regarding what you've been discovering in the online home-study portion of the course.


    This has been many students favorite portion of the course! We will review vital concepts for using each of The 5 Phases and you will play act very specific exercises with other students in our online break-out rooms. By the end of the course, all the fine points and nuances for resolving and avoiding conflict and creating harmony both in your personal and professional relationships will be second nature to you. You will have made many new friends and be an integral part of our 5 Phases Community.


    During the class, Michael may individually coach you or others who need special help in handling a particular situation. This may be with a spouse, loved one, or in a business situation. (Michael's normal rate for private coaching sessions ranges from $250 to $500 per session, so just one session with Michael during the course will pay for the entire course).


    You and your fellow attendees will be guided through a 10 to 20 minute spontaneous meditation Michael will be leading. In this higher and more receptive state, the friction-free and flowing variations and fine points of each of The 5 Phases will be further embedded into your neurology. These will replace old dysfunctional behavior patterns with new ones that engender greater acceptance, joy and love with your spouse, family and friends. At the same time, these new patterns create expanding cooperation and teamwork with everyone in your professional life and business endeavors.

For years going forward, because the course is so applicable in making every one of your relationships so much more flowing and harmonious, you will find yourself going through the course again and again either in its entirety . . .


. . . using our simple index to choose very specific 1 to 5 minute lessons to help you handle particular situations in your personal or business-related relationships.

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You will receive immediate access to Module 1 consisting of:

  • 50 brief lessons totaling 2½ hours of training
  • Joining in on the first 90-minute live weekly video conference with Michael!

In that live conference, Michael will lead you through:

  • Breathing and many other 5 Phases exercises
  • Practice sessions of essential techniques done in a breakout rooms with a partner.
  • A Guided Speaking Your Truth Meditation spontaneously given by Michael.
  • Q & A Session. You will be able to ask Michael any question you like about the techniques or about how best to handle any issue you may be having in a personal or business relationship.

Depending on which of the 3 packages you choose below, the remainder of your Masterclass investment will be automatically billed after 7 days and you will be instantly granted access to the other 9 modules.

Your $9 Return

During the first week, if you choose not to continue onto the entire Masterclass, simply click a conveniently located button and we will refund your $9, no questions asked.And you will not be billed for a dime more!

All Masterclass Options Include:

10 two-and-a-half hour online classes

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What Is This Transformation
Really Worth To You?

The most important questions to ask yourself is, starting from Week 1 of the course onward —

  • How different will my relationships be with my significant other and closest loved ones if I can begin dissolving the tension, discord and conflict in those relationships?

  • How much more successful will I be if I can draw healthy boundaries while strengthening each of my relationships with my co-workers, employees, boss, teammates and/or business partners . . . rather than feeling like I am always on the verge of a disagreement or confrontation?

  • How many more goals will I be able to achieve after acquiring the skills to avoid conflict and lead others via The 5 Phases . . . . . . compared to if I let this opportunity slip by?

Looking forward to meeting you personally in the Masterclass!

Warmest regards,

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