It’s true. Women more than men (though many men, as well), are often afraid to ask for what they most need.
Perhaps you hesitate asking your significant other, children or even someone you manage to take certain responsibilities, so you don’t feel overwhelmed doing so much yourself.
Or it could be you’re reluctant to tell a friend, someone you manage, or a teenaged child or your significant other that a certain behavior is wearing on your nerves.
It can also be something as everyday as your significant other turning on the television and zoning out when you both get home from work. You smile and pretend everything is wonderful, but deep inside you desperately desire to spend more time with him, sharing your thoughts, feelings, goals and desires.
You wish you could speak your truth, but feel you won’t be heard… or, like Katherine Graham, you feel you may be shut down… or you feel you may unintentionally offend the other person.
Below, listen to Sherry Farrell, a real
hilariously describe the tongue-tied bind she finds herself in when
wanting to express her needs —
“You start off saying keep peace at all costs . . .
and you silently suffer . . .”
Below, listen to Dr. Deborah Kearney, a prominent educator and founder of Job Smart Enterprises describe the tortuous bind she too experiences when wanting to Speak Her Truth —
“The problem of Speaking Your Truth
is working through the emotion of it.
I don’t do it well.”
You can take comfort in that even men — including your significant other — may also feel inhibited speaking up to get their needs fulfilled —
Listen to what Wayne, a gentleman I struck
had to say about the problems he faces
Speaking His Truth —
“Most people lie to each other
and call it having a relationship.”